Instructions:
The Deal
Deal all of the black Love Cards to one partner and all of the red cards to the other. Lay your cards face up in columns.
Affirmations
Setting the tone: From your partner’s Love Cards, pull cards that name something about your partner that you really admire. Take turns explaining why you played those cards.
Contentions
Let's strike a deal: Partner 1 pulls a Love Card that defines a difficulty in the relationship from Partner 2’s hand. Then Partner 1 carefully explains the problem without interruption from Partner 2, except for clarification. This is not an argument but an exercise in thoughtful expression and attentive listening. After describing the problem, Partner 1 should make a clear request for a change of behavior from Partner 2 that would result in a stronger relationship.
Negotiations
Partner 2 pulls a Love Card from Partner’s 1 hand, that he or she needs addressed in order to fulfill Partner 1’s request. Again thoughtful expression and attentive listening are necessary at this step. Be creative, feel free to wheel and deal, doing whatever it takes to make a compromise happen. How many Love Cards will be played to make a deal? Can you make a deal on this card or perhaps this issue going to be the deal breaker?
Post Game Show
Once a deal or deals have been struck and your issues communicated, put the cards up and have fun, action begins tomorrow. At any point if someone has not lived up to the deal, it can be dissolved, or perhaps forgiven and renegotiated in another round of The Love Cards.
Deal all of the black Love Cards to one partner and all of the red cards to the other. Lay your cards face up in columns.
Affirmations
Setting the tone: From your partner’s Love Cards, pull cards that name something about your partner that you really admire. Take turns explaining why you played those cards.
Contentions
Let's strike a deal: Partner 1 pulls a Love Card that defines a difficulty in the relationship from Partner 2’s hand. Then Partner 1 carefully explains the problem without interruption from Partner 2, except for clarification. This is not an argument but an exercise in thoughtful expression and attentive listening. After describing the problem, Partner 1 should make a clear request for a change of behavior from Partner 2 that would result in a stronger relationship.
Negotiations
Partner 2 pulls a Love Card from Partner’s 1 hand, that he or she needs addressed in order to fulfill Partner 1’s request. Again thoughtful expression and attentive listening are necessary at this step. Be creative, feel free to wheel and deal, doing whatever it takes to make a compromise happen. How many Love Cards will be played to make a deal? Can you make a deal on this card or perhaps this issue going to be the deal breaker?
Post Game Show
Once a deal or deals have been struck and your issues communicated, put the cards up and have fun, action begins tomorrow. At any point if someone has not lived up to the deal, it can be dissolved, or perhaps forgiven and renegotiated in another round of The Love Cards.
